Wairarapa News : June 12th 2013
12 WAIRARAPA NEWS, JUNE 12, 2013 OPINION RHM Total freedom. hour support. This is the best of both worlds. Wairarapa VILL AGE Enjoy health and wellbeing in the heart of downtown Masterton. Even for the most able retiree, there comes a time when help is needed with some of the basics of day-to-day living. At Wairarapa Village you can enjoy this type of support and remain as independent as possible in our lovely retirement village. This is what we call serviced apartment living - you relax in the comfort of your home and we can take care of meals, cleaning and laundry. Plus we have on- site nursing sta , a 24-hour emergency call system and we provide a whole host of extra support services. To see this peace of mind retirement living for yourself, simply come along to one of our open days and take a relaxed tour of the village. 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Opening Hours Mon--Fri9am--5pmSat10am--1pm or by appointment Cnr King & Chapel Sts, Masterton 06 378 6060 email@example.com www.countrylife.co.nz Quality Furniture and Furnishings Wairarapa's CURTAIN SERVICE • Aluminium & Timber Blinds • Roller Blinds • Roman & Venetian Blinds • Sunscreens • Drapes • FREE Measure & Quote Children's sport should be fun GREAT TO BE HERE PIERS FULLER Iwas talking to a mate in Hawke's Bay the weekend who recalled an incident that made the local papers when he was a happy 10-year-old playing soccer. A psycho dad on the sideline threatened to kill him after he tackled his son twice in a game. The dad was banned from spectat- ing at his son's games for life. I went to watch my eldest son play rugby the other day and it really was a game of two halves. It is his first year of tackle rugby. He is 6, and not particu- larly big, and playing in the under-8s. I hadn't been able to watch him yet because I coach his little brother's team which plays at the same time. I ran over to the under-8s after the under-6 Rippa game, to catch my eldest boy's second game. He was pretty much the most ineffec- tual player on the field. For a rugby dad it can be quite frustrating watching your son drifting around the field showing absolutely no initiative whatso- ever -- and that sums up my first half experience. What changed in the second half was not my son's performance, but my realisation that it didn't matter. It doesn't matter that he's not playing very well, it doesn't matter that he just let that guy run right past without even the slightest attempt at a chase. The only thing that mat- ters is that he is not hating it. His dad yelling from the sidelines could quickly change that. I'm not one to be silent on the benches, but I also know that sideline advice is rarely any help. When I made an effort to check my own desires and expectations, I really enjoyed watching the sec- ond half of his game because there was some cracking rugby on dis- play by both sides. Some of the young Gladstone and Pioneer players were awe- some -- fending, tackling, weaving, mauling, and burning down the sideline. My son wasn't one of them, but that's cool. I learnt a lesson that most parents need to remember: Relax, it doesn't really matter. I want my sons to play rugby because it's a great game and it is physically confronting. I was no star, but I enjoyed it and I loved the physicality of it. There are not that many oppor- tunities for crashing and bashing in modern life and rugby gives you that, in a relatively safe environ- ment. My oldest boy doesn't really get the game just yet, and it may never be his thing, but I want him to give it a decent crack. He can dribble a soccer ball well, but we're not ready to hop that fence just yet. Children's sport is for the chil- dren and we need to do everything we can to make sure they enjoy it. If we are going to help them be better players, we need to do it in a fun and supportive way. The kids that do well are the ones that regularly play some footy with their whanau out in the back yard, not the ones that have to endure 40 minutes of getting their ears chewed about what they should and shouldn't be doing on the field. You hear horror stories about parents tearing strips off kids, and it makes you wince. The coach of an under-8 soccer team told me one of his parents yelled from the sideline kick 'em in the guts'' -- nice one. If we want our kids to have happy childhoods, there is nothing like an enjoyable sport to help them flourish and keep them out of trouble, we just need to temper our expectations, and expletives, and let them find the joy in skill and competition.
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